Have A Sexcessful And Sextacular Year

 Yes, you read it right,  this is a blog for married couples ,relationships.  I know what some of you are thinking ,she loves to talk about sex  and you’re right.  I’m legal, married and very sensual.  Yes I’m still saved and my husband is still a man of God. Let’s be real , they don’t really mention it in church, it’s like you have to go underground to talk about it. When you’re home it comes up after the bills, after the kids, after dinner, after cleaning, after sports and news.  Lights out and ok now we can touch each other late at night  like an afterthought.  Don’t take too long because we have to get back to the more important things on tomorrow.  When you do talk about it with your friends, afterwards you feel guilty like you talked about something dirty.  Not I, because it is part of my nature and I’m a very sensual person. I’m grown and married , not to mention in my prime .  

Most often during marriage at some point your sex life begins to wean. There are a myriad of reasons why, busy lifestyles,  kids , jobs, career, money woes, health,  etc, becoming a routine. So let’s prioritize it again.  MzLoveviewz says It’s Ok2sexAgain .

I believe married people should have the best time of their lives.  Especially sexually, that is our language of love to each other.  It is what God ordained for a man and a woman.

Sexcessful  ,meaning more intimacy, sex and lovemaking then last year. 

Some couples leave their zip codes to spice it up.  They go on a trip, to the Caribbean or Poconos, cruise,etc. But once they get back to their zip code back in the little box it goes. To the contrary, bring it on.

Whatever excuses you’ve been using to not engage, drop them.  Now there is no set time frame for frequency, some like it more than others.  What is your norm, just increase it and it will be conducive to your marriage. When making love you become one, that is the closest you can become to your spouse.

Be spontaneous, be intriguing, playful, flirty and daring. Tease, scream, pant , be erotic, romantic. Downright naughty.

 Do you have any inhibitions?  If you do, this is the year to do away with them.  You’re going to be sexcessful in 2012, because we ‘re going to delve.

Who is the initiator ?  Time for you to reverse the roles.

 Do you make noise? (screams) ughhhh  Silent lovemaking is for turtles, get out of your shell.

 Obviously we have more to talk about so there will be a 2nd part to this.  

Mmmm, yes I will call it positions, places and toys oh my.   It’s going to be Sextacular!

 

 

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Keep em Open!

Mmmm, Here’s a little tantilizing tidbit to make it hotter! I know what you heard, and how we get settled in doing things the same ole way. Spice it up, switch it up , Mmmmm, come a little closer I tell you how. Ssshh c’mere closer, ok this is the secret.

While lovemaking Keep Your Eyes Open! Ta daa that’s it. Hey don’t knock it, try it . Especially us ladies with our insecurities with our bodies , we insist on lights off , eyes closed. Stop! Relax he is not focused on your fat pockets or this or that. Most men are visuals so keep the view  on you , it will enhance his feelings of you. Try it , may seem awkward at first because we are so used to doing it the other way .   Baby, keep those eyes open, keep the lights on and take your time.   Mmm, look into their eyes as the passion is unleashed and the only vision they have is you.   Guarantee they will be so excited and can’t stop thinking of you . Tell your mate the new rules it will be fun and exciting and  Sextacular !!!

Love’s Signature Is The Kiss

  Kissing is like the licking of the envelope for love, it seals it. Each person kiss is different, is so sensual and extremely intimate. Do you kiss while making love? You may think that is a silly question,  but it’s not. Couples, remember when you were dating, you talked a lot  then came the kiss.  It was exciting, sexy, fun, flirty. Now it seems like an old acquaintance, it seems that the longer you’re in a relationship, that’s the first thing to go. It happens subtly, the novelty wears off the busier we are and the monotony sets in. Life begins to get so hurried that in the relationship things that were first begins to take a back seat . We start to bump lips, I call it or peck and that is not a signature( lol) that is like writing your initials.  Kissing is extremely intimate, just as intimate if not more than sex. Case in point ex: Prostitutes refuse to kiss their John’s because of the emotional intimacy of the act.  So couples be very vigilant , reflect back on how you two romanced each other, and go back to those basic steps.  Take the time to french kiss each other, it takes a few seconds but it will add time to your relationship keeping it fresh and active. Try to be different each time , change it up, you know bite the lip, flick the tongue , and it doesn’t have to be on the mouth all the time.  Kiss on the neck, lower, higher, just keep kissing, the passion will stay active.  If you realize you stopped and you got into a routine of bump kissing, shock them the next time you give them a kiss make it long and passionate. You don’t want to have them craving for something that is already in the house. The worst thing is to find your self with a roommate who you occasionally have sex with. I like to say keep the (y) in sexy otherwise it’s just sex.   Love’s signature is the kiss , so start signing !

Talking Utensils: Table For 2-Silence For Both

   I went out to dinner with hubby, we enjoyed our meal and conversed.  We looked over the room and
noticed 3 couples in the dining room that were not talking at all through their meal.  I just wanted to go over to that table and hand my card and say call me, my hubby wouldn’t let me.    When your relationship gets to this stage there are major problems.   Not saying it’s to late ,but this is the time to get help.

Our lives are extremely busy and we are inundated with so many things vying for our attention.  We must make sure when we get with our significant other, you need to be present in every sense of the word.  Take off your overcoat of the job, stress, etc and get together and bond. Power up if you will , strengthen each other because jobs etc have a way of depleting you.  You have to replenish each other, pour into each other.

I must interject my word In2MeC, because you need to get into your partner,
immerse yourself in their presence. How do you do that? Ask your self what
attracted you to this person, what you would miss if they were out of your
life.  Let them know that they matter.  Don’t have anything to say, say what you
see.  Baby I like what you wearing today. That color really lights up your
complexion. Out of all the people in this room, I’m glad I’m with you etc. Sounds corny but you know you want to hear it . Call me dramatic whatever,  what you can’t call me is single lol.  Not talking is something that subtly creeps into your relationship it just doesn’t abruptly stop.  You must be alert and aware when silent changes occur in your relationship.  Keep it active and alive to stop the monotony from setting in.

On your mark start talking to each other, about  new interesting things you like mutually and individually.

MzLoveViews was stopped this time but the next couple may not be
so lucky.   Tell me, how you keep your relationship alive and relevant to each
other.

Intimacy Define It And Live It!

The Webster’s Dictionary defines Intimacy as a state of being intimate:
familiarity: something of a personal nature.

MzLoveViewz defines Intimacy, a word
that is clothed in a privacy of a being in a naked way. MzLoveViewz spelling of
the word defines it totally- In2MeC

I know myself intimately, and my husband knows me intimately, and
vice -versa. Before anyone defines you define your self. How can he know me,
unless I’m aware of myself.  How do you
find out about yourself?  You explore all
regions. Spiritually, emotionally, intellectually, physically, fears,
ambitions, etc.  Intimacy is of your
private thoughts.  Your familiarity  that very few should know.

Do you know your partner, do you know what excites them how/why.
Find new ways to excite them, love them intrigue them. Explore together.

Relax, let go of all
those hang-ups you learned or experienced that creates a gulf between you and
your mate. Beliefs about things can be updated. Oops , no I did not do a typo,
MzLoveViewz  quote’s – “beliefs about
things can be updated/changed , added or subtracted or replaced.”

Save the spelling of In2MeC that is
from the MzLoveViewz  Personal Jargon
Dictionary.  There is more to learn.