Archive | September 2011

30 Years- To God Be The Glory!

  We were so elated to celebrate our 30th year of marriage.  If you count the years we  dated , its longer than that.  We’ve been asked by many people , what’s your secret, the  answer sounds so cliché, ” If the LORD had not been on our side— let Israel say—”Psalm 124v1 (let Carl and Audrey say). 

The Lord truly has been the glue that kept us together, not just in name but inflamed with active love.  Both of us having a personal relationship with God, coupled with our love and patience  toward each other kept us anchored.  Of course there were countless times that we wanted to throw our hands up, but we talked and prayed and realized that was the easy way out.  There’s a situation, a story, or myriad of things in every relationship, that can cause it to end. Doesn’t mean it should or does.   Don’t take our story out of context, one part does not tell the whole story.   If you were not present and privy,  at the beginning and throughout our relationship, it would be hard to understand that a crisis of infidelity could not define our relationship.   The bible state’s infidelity is a reason for divorce,  it doesn’t say it had to be.   The choice was mine’s  alone and it was an easy choice for me than and now.     How can I say that , because aside from that , I  had no other valid, conceivable issue against my husband.  He was and is a wonderful husband to me.  You know that song that Jennifer Holiday sings and that verse , my life with him uttered those words literally . He is the best thing I ever had and there was no way, (cue music) I was living without him.   The defining part was he sang it first. ( I was expecting  Beyoncé  and dem to float out on a cloud and sing “we are a family” )  

     I know he is the one God ordained for me ,  because having my own relationship with God allowed me to be compassionate for  this Man of God .  I witnessed how he was so broken spiritually because he sinned against God , and broke a vow to his wife .   Although I was devastated, God used me to somehow minister to my husband in his fallen state.   I knew that ,even if we never repaired our relationship he was still a soul and he needed someone to intercede for him at that time.  Our love was stronger, than what came against it.  That was something meant for our demise, yet it gave us new life .   It allowed us to purposely choose each other again.  Nobody but God can do what he did for us. 

     So let it be no secret , put God as the head and the foundation of your marriage  and you can be sure the storms of life will beat against your  relationship , but with God on board your anchor will hold.  

(Cue the organ player, I need an usher circle  “breaks out in a praise dance”)

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Talking Utensils: Table For 2-Silence For Both

   I went out to dinner with hubby, we enjoyed our meal and conversed.  We looked over the room and
noticed 3 couples in the dining room that were not talking at all through their meal.  I just wanted to go over to that table and hand my card and say call me, my hubby wouldn’t let me.    When your relationship gets to this stage there are major problems.   Not saying it’s to late ,but this is the time to get help.

Our lives are extremely busy and we are inundated with so many things vying for our attention.  We must make sure when we get with our significant other, you need to be present in every sense of the word.  Take off your overcoat of the job, stress, etc and get together and bond. Power up if you will , strengthen each other because jobs etc have a way of depleting you.  You have to replenish each other, pour into each other.

I must interject my word In2MeC, because you need to get into your partner,
immerse yourself in their presence. How do you do that? Ask your self what
attracted you to this person, what you would miss if they were out of your
life.  Let them know that they matter.  Don’t have anything to say, say what you
see.  Baby I like what you wearing today. That color really lights up your
complexion. Out of all the people in this room, I’m glad I’m with you etc. Sounds corny but you know you want to hear it . Call me dramatic whatever,  what you can’t call me is single lol.  Not talking is something that subtly creeps into your relationship it just doesn’t abruptly stop.  You must be alert and aware when silent changes occur in your relationship.  Keep it active and alive to stop the monotony from setting in.

On your mark start talking to each other, about  new interesting things you like mutually and individually.

MzLoveViews was stopped this time but the next couple may not be
so lucky.   Tell me, how you keep your relationship alive and relevant to each
other.

Intimacy Define It And Live It!

The Webster’s Dictionary defines Intimacy as a state of being intimate:
familiarity: something of a personal nature
.

MzLoveViewz defines Intimacy, a word
that is clothed in a privacy of a being in a naked way. MzLoveViewz spelling of
the word defines it totally- In2MeC

I know myself intimately, and my husband knows me intimately, and
vice -versa. Before anyone defines you define your self. How can he know me,
unless I’m aware of myself.  How do you
find out about yourself?  You explore all
regions. Spiritually, emotionally, intellectually, physically, fears,
ambitions, etc.  Intimacy is of your
private thoughts.  Your familiarity  that very few should know.

Do you know your partner, do you know what excites them how/why.
Find new ways to excite them, love them intrigue them. Explore together.

Relax, let go of all
those hang-ups you learned or experienced that creates a gulf between you and
your mate. Beliefs about things can be updated. Oops , no I did not do a typo,
MzLoveViewz  quote’s – “beliefs about
things can be updated/changed , added or subtracted or replaced.”

Save the spelling of In2MeC that is
from the MzLoveViewz  Personal Jargon
Dictionary
.  There is more to learn.

We speak 2 languages here, English and Sex!

Now that I have your attention, Let me introduce myself . I’m Coach Audrey but on this blog you can call me MzLoveViewz! My husband is Coach Carl and we are Marriage-Relationship -Life Coaches. Welcome to our blog , where we will talk about all things pertaining to couples and men and woman issues.

Kudos’ to Moi, I received my Certification to teach Sexual Intimacy Techniques & Therapy. We will definitely be talking about sex up in here. I know sex, is a taboo subject to some , but that’s exactly the reason we don’t shy away from it here. Matter of fact we will be speaking about sex fluently. Scared of that ? This is not the blog for you. It needs more discussion in the context of romance and intimacy. Romance is a two-way street, and if you want your sex life to be exciting and fulfilling , then you need to take the steps to make that happen. Our blog is about sharing, how to keep connected to our partner’s through communication, intimacy. Most importantly how to keep the passion active and love alive. We invite you to subscribe to our blog, so that you may comment, get your questions answered and get to know us.