Don’t allow the stress of the holidays unwrap the love you and your mate have.
The only thing that should be unraveling is the wrapping paper!
At holiday time, tensions abound even in the best of families. The backdrop for family dinners may have to do with who expects what, who can’t stand whom, whose house is center stage, whose traditions “win,” who’s impossible to buy presents for and who’s jealous of what.
Don’t worry about making everything perfect. Things will go wrong, people will get upset and disappointed. Take it all in stride and remember what the holidays is all about, God, family, love thankfulness and being together.
Between your budget, your family and your physical demands, you have enough on your plate during the holidays without having to deal with added stress. Use these tips on coping with stress to help put you back in the holiday spirit.
Communicate with your mate
Set a budget for you and your mate to shop from. Finance is tight for most people, stick to the budget and be happy.
If you can’t decide whose family house to celebrate, either have dinner at one and dessert at the other. If they are to far away, plan to go there next year. Try having everyone come to your house. Make a reasonable compromise that will make you both happy. You won’t be able to please everybody; just your mate will do just fine.
Let people help you.
Delegate and designate who to do what. Have everyone bring over a dish; those that don’t cook bring paper ware, drinks, and games. Set the food up buffet style, have everyone walk around the table serving themselves.
Before you and your mate go out, make a code word that you can say to each other to alert one another that “ok don’t talk about that”, “ I’m getting upset”, so as you wouldn’t argue or bicker in front of people.
My husband and I would develop some code words that we use to lighten the mood between us whenever family is getting too annoying. Or things seem to be going left, one I would use is ” Honey do you have any lifesavers” because to save us from doing or saying something we can’t get back we use the code to cool things down .
Don’t be afraid to establish new traditions. Important thing you should remember about your in-laws is ,they made and raised that wonderful person you fell in love with.
Single people don’t let loneliness get to you over the holidays.
You don’t need a mate to be happy. Network with your girlfriends, go out have a gathering at your home, go to a play ,spa. Go house hopping, party over here, dinner over there, enjoy yourself, network make new friends.
Don’t sweat the small stuff.
The holidays are a time to celebrate and give thanks for everyone and everything that you have.
Remember: You may not be able to make your holiday perfect, but you can make it memorable.
Relax; enjoy the excitement of it all.