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Practice what you preach.
Love should be shown and told.
The way I love is all year long.
Valentine’s Day should be an addendum of your love not a cue.
This Valentine Day love as a way of life,not a reminder to appreciate something you had all along. Love your partner with resources of gifts and the given. Gift them yes as you should in appreciation of their essence. Give to them your time, your attention your exclusivity of affection. Valentine’s Day is meant to be a continuation of appreciation not as a reminder as some think. If you need a day like a birthday, anniversary or holiday to remind you to show your love then you might be guilty of taken your love one for granted.
Love should be evident.
Everyday you share with your loved one is another chance to show and tell them how much they mean to you. Cherish the day each and every way. We sometimes take each other for granted for a space of time. The moment we realize it,we must correct our actions and deposit the love and care necessary. We women tend to be a little more emotional about this.
If you celebrate it ,Valentine’s Day should be an addendum of your love not a cue.

If you’re single make sure the same is true for you. Love and pamper yourself just because!

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Married Yet Still Me

Don’t get lost, as you go down the aisle of life. You’re married, yet still you.  Keep that internal GPS of you. As you go through your life, dealing with troubles and stress you must always be able to find you.

Be a wife, a parent, and all the other titles you hold, but it is paramount that you don’t lose who you are.

Still go for your dreams, still do the things you love. You wear so many titles yet be the master of you.

You’re so unique and so needed, you’re beautiful, sexy, lovely all things soft yet so very strong.

Celebrate you, love you, inspire you, caress you. What a beautiful being you are, your husband knows, your children recognize, and the mirror reflects what’s inside. You said I do, now say it just for you. Repeat as you read.

I do matter, I do need time for me, I do love me more than I love you. I’m already complete, I’m sexy, I’m intelligent, strong, caring, never fearing losing myself. Red, white, fuchsia, pink all the colors of me as I think. Life begins with me, my womb is the world. I’m married yet still me.

That little girl who use to skip and hide is still inside, she just wants to play hide and seek so go find her.

You’re so unique, one of a kind and so divine. I’m married yet still me.

I have a spouse and I take care of all the inhabitants of my house. It’s clean, and well stocked so many things to do around the clock. I rise with the sun, yet at the end of the day there are still things to be done.

I must take some time replenish, refresh and unwind, it’s so very important I get my me time.

Tomorrow is another day I will answer the many calls of honey, Mom, boss, sister, aunt, friend.  After all is said and done, I must answer to one, me. Married yet still me.

Shh, come here, close the door make time for you, she is here you know and all she wants it time with you.

You will imagine, you will create, you will push and even vacillate, you have the ring yet above all, you are the main thing.

I love my husband we are the ingredients in this marriage. We make this thing called our life, he brings the flavor, I bring the spice.

My mantra is loving myself it’s contagious.  Because when you love yourself others will receive it and Love you to.

Women don’t be your own foe, Whoa! To thine own self be true. Always remember you.

I’m married yet still me.

Audrey Reed is a Life /Marriage Relationship Coach     Aka/MzLoveViewz 

I’m not only a Coach but I’m a product of Relationship Coaching. My marriage was saved by countless sessions by my coach when an affair threatened my marriage. Now it’s my turn to give back.  To empower couples and others to love again, believe again, trust again. @Ok2loveagain.com

Married And Loving It.

Marriages are failing at an alarming rate. Please remember God ordained marriages hold on to your fate.  Let’s celebrate loud and clear ,thank God for your marriages . All couples please share with us, how many years you’ve been married, and tell us something that works for you.

      Love Endures
That same love covers a multitude of sins without it there is no chance to win.
When I was in a state of confusion and pain, betrayed by the one who gave me his name.
Love rescued me from the deepest despair, took away the sin and wipe my tear.
It told me to forgive and go on and live. 
I forgave realizing I to was enslaved.
Here I am now safe and secure a testament how love can endure
My 1st love at my side all the pain I had did subside.
This is our story and not how we boast.
 Now raise your champagne glasses to make a toast,our marriage did remain yes God sustained.
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Love Under Pressure – 7 Key Factors To Keep The Love Alive

Definition of pressure: a: the burden of physical or mental distress  b: the constraint of circumstance:        the  weight of social or economic imposition.

 

This albeit is a difficult thing to do yet obtainable.   As I write in my blog, I want to share things that are encouraging, helpful, and things I experienced 1st hand.

Love under pressure is something I have dealt with countless times during my marriage. Be it financial, children, emotional, you name it we mostly have handled it. When you have two people that are committed to each other in love and matrimony, you just don’t check out. If difficult times come, (error, rephrase) not if, when difficult times come, the question is how do you handle it, and keep your love alive.

When I say alive, it’s because many times your love for one another will need to be resuscitated. Some people like to say “been through a lot but still standing”. I know what they mean but you can be still standing and about to keel over. The kick stand is about to brake.

Let me share what has worked for us,

1) Develop and have a prayer life with God.  The one that sustains you.

Anchor yourself in him, each for yourself and together.

2) You must speak your feelings, your needs and get a plan to tackle the difficulties.

Do not shut down and refuse to communicate. That is a state of withdrawal a divorce.

When you disagree, argue, drop the need to be right, let go of your ego.    If one of you loses you both lose so work on understanding the need or issue from each other’s perspective.  This is more about comprehension and compassion and less about who’s right or wrong.  Hear each other out, resist the urge to interrupt, say I told you so or criticize.  You may not agree and at times you won’t but just understand their perspective on it, and their feelings.   Connect with them if only in their eyes.  Like “ baby I understand”.

I realized earlier on in my marriage is, that if I tear him down verbally, by insults etc.  He is still my man and guess who has to take all that necessary time to build him up again, me.

3) Prioritize things, by order of urgency, at the same time do not shuffle your each other in the process.  He/she must stay at the top, all the rest of the people and issues in descending order.

4) Commit to a time just for the two of you.  During that time it’s all about the both of you, don’t mention the issues.   Whether in the bedroom or go release some tension by playing a game of tennis, basketball, play the Wii. Workout together to release that stress, and tension. Get couples massage, or to save money give them to each other.   Here’s a secret don’t give the massages to each other on the same day, somebody is going to get cheated because the one that gets the massage first will fall asleep.

5) Strategize, make a budget.

Shoulder the responsibilities, talking with bill collectors, which can cause a lot of stress therefore take turns, give the other one a break.  Be honest as possible.

6) When you’re under pressure it is not a pretty picture. It is hard to see them as sexy, handsome, now you’re looking at them with a critical eye.    Try not to internalize it because when you internalize it , it becomes a point where you will look at each other differently.  Almost as if you’re on opposing sides, it will begin to distort the relationship.  I would always remind my husband he’s not sleeping with the enemy, so don’t deal with it by his self.  Don’t go to bed mad and refuse to talk. This will frustrate you and in turn you will look for quick ways out to relieve the pressure.  Vices of every kind, the arm of flesh, gambling, alcohol, etc.  This is the easy way out and must I remind you the wrong way out.  Anybody can succumb to illicit pleasures,but it takes a strong mature person to resist the easy way out. When you’ve done all there is to stand, stand therefore.

7) Give each other a lot of praise and affection which will heal the little tears in your spirit and feelings of humiliation or of being inept.  It will renew your relationship like new skin.

Remember a threefold cord is not easily broken. That consists of the two of you and God. Which can handle anything that can come against you.

Keep the love alive, trust me the pressure will subside.  When it does love will still be there in full force.

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Home________ Home (pt 2)

  Relax that is the operative word, when you’re home you want to relax unwind.   Home is a place that should be   comfortable, a place where you can exhale,  and be free.  When your mate comes home it’s not a time to pounce on them with problems like the bills, things that are broke or any stressing issues.  As I said before greet them with a hug a kiss. a massage. Let them unwind for a few minutes, take off their clothes, shower.
Ask them about their day , if you’re not interested just listen , conveyed to them that they do matter.
Have dinner ,eat together, now it’s conversation time.  Now you can interject about your day,  things to bring to their attention.
Play it by ear, you know your mate better than anyone, try to gauge when to bring up certain things. When they seem stressed out it’s not a good time to bring up a topic that will stress them out more.
If you’re uptight use that time to unwind as well, make some coffee or tea, pray, sit silently. Just relax.
Little changes in your overall routine in your daily life can bring about big changes over time.
Perhaps your mate is not working at this present time, due to the recession and the economic times. That alone can be a stressing issue one that accompanies depression, mood swings, feelings of inept. Be very considerate for the one that is not employed. By encouraging them, reassuring them that it’s only a matter before some one hires them. Thank them for cleaning the house, helping out with the kids and the pets. Try not to say negative things even if you ‘re tired and frustrated, know that they are also.  Now the one that is not employed should plan their day where they are allotted time to clean the home , and help prepare the meals before the one that works come home.
Some of you may be thinking , they don’t deserve it , and my reply to that is treat them like they deserve it and soon they will act like they deserve it. Sometime you have to give what you want to receive .
In other words make a deposit before you make a withdrawal. It enriches the entire household.
I know there are some of you that have O.C.D.  everything has to be in its place, has to be meticulous have to be right where you left it . My husband has a form of it and at first it really made me upset, than I realized ok that is the way he is . But I also asked him to relax on certain things concerning his O.C.D. which over time he did which was conducive in us living together this long.  Compromise on both sides, everything can be worked out that will be accommodating for the both of you.
Check the temperature in your home is it cozy? How can you make it more comfortable. Have soft music playing , may I suggest a little instrumental jazz, or some kind of light music. I like instrumental because there’s no words just the music and it allows you to clear your mind without replacing it with words. Like you ever had a song stuck in your mind and it keeps replaying, like a jingle from a commercial.
Ok now you get the picture , take the restrictions off in the house. Must remind you that you’re in a relationship with another adult therefore treat them as such. Let them sit in that beautiful living room, eat on that good china. Let them watch the all-sports channel, or the food channel or my favorite the life channel. It’s what relaxes them, also do something’s that relaxes you.
Lastly I like to touch on  is the bedroom, yes you know I had to go in there. Your Boudoir, should be the most beautiful , sexy, comfortable place in the house.  The Boudoir is another post we have to talk about.  There should be no discussions about the bills, or any things to cause stress in that room. That kind of talk should be off- limits their. It can be a libido killer.  Everything associated with the bedroom should be comfortable, sexy, tranquil, romantic, all about the mutual bond you share and that is love.
Home Sweet Home!
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Home ________ Home! (pt. 1)

Fill in the blank , because for some  when they think of home it’s not “Home Sweet Home! It’s more like Home Complaining home, Home Pressure Pot Home,
Home Tapout Home, Home Wipeout Home.  Ok you get the picture. When your mate comes home, they should come home to a clean house, a house with all of their comforts. When they walk in the door and if you are there, greet them, hug, kiss them. They have been at work all day , dealing with all kinds of issues, bosses, catty coworkers, deals went wrong or times when things went good.  The project at work was successful,  and they want to be celebrated at home.  They want praise, and that’s excellent honey.   Some people come home and they have all of those luxurious comforts, beautiful home , lavishly furnished, immaculate upkeep.  Yet when they walk in the door, they can’t relax there because of “don’t eat in the living room” ,” don’t eat that snack, I’m making dinner”  or “those snacks are for the kids”.  To many restrictions in your house, is making your house not a home.   It doesn’t matter if they used the glass without a coaster.  It doesn’t matter if they sat in the living room that looks like a showroom.  Let them relax.

Keep posted  I have a part 2, watch the temperature change in your house from cold to cozy.

Ok2loveagain Marriage/Relationships/Life coaching
We provide marriage and relationship and personal relationship coaching for “for couples, who are committed to “doing” whatever it takes to make their relationships work better.
Contact Coach Carl/Coach Audrey @ 347-330-6471

Who Loves Ya Baby?

Who loves ya Baby?
Remember that little catch phrase from the television series Kojac?
When I was a little girl my father used that as a call and response phrase to say good bye.  He would say ” who loves ya baby” , and I would respond with a big smile and say you do daddy.  Recently that has been my catch phrase to my family, to remind them that I love them.  Who loves you baby?  It causes you to reflect and answer.  God above all else, love’s you , with a matchless love.  Remind your self daily that you are loved.  Know that your mate loves you.  Be confident that your mate is considerate of you and has your best interest at heart.  Remember that when you come up against pressure of any kind, on the job, bills,  even your own frailty .  Remember that when you come up against temptation, demands, ego.  Realize  they are praying fervently for you.  Your mate loves you more than you can imagine and they wouldn’t want you to fret, be discouraged, or fear.  You’re home take off that cape, you don’t have to be super man/woman .  Let down your guards ,  it’s safe here.  Love is here,  your every comfort is here ,your family, food, pet.   It’s good to know ,its your weapon against your foes. Go ahead, adopt this phrase.  Ask your mate, Who Love’s Ya Baby?  The Answer will be priceless!