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Have A Sexcessful and Sextacular Year Pt 2

To have a Sexcessful and Sextacular New Year, with your mate you must put in the time and effort.

The bond you share with your mate is unlike any other bond, it goes to the core of your soul. Because you become one with them sexually.  That creates an unmatched relationship with any other creature.  The bible calls it to know them.

This isn’t the same kind of marriage you grew up on.  Today’s marriages and relationships have to deal with attention pulling from all areas, social media, twitter, Facebook, videos, TV, movies.  To keep your relationship fresh, and paramount, you do have to present your best self. Take a look in the mirror would you date you. Is there something you want to improve on, weight, body whatever to give them your best self.   Because we are inundated with sex,sex, sex,everywhere which in turn is a spirit of temptation.  

I stay in a sexy mind-set most of the time because I’m sensual.  I have to give myself props for this because I kept it contained for one man all these years.  Not that I didn’t have temptation or the opportunity but it’s a choice and I have power over that.  So say what you want, It works for me.  I love being a woman and now that I’m at this age it has increased to the 10th power!  I love finding new  ways to love my husband.

Keep an open mind ladies especially, update your knowledge and beliefs about sex.  Picture if you will a person that is paralyzed or handicapped in a way that does not allow them to have sex in the “normal” way. Yet they want to still be loved and be lov.ing to their partner so they have to come up with other ways to have that intimacy.   That may include performing orally, or with toys, or just touching certain parts of the body. They have to become in tune with their skin, senses, and mind-set.  Now that you pictured it , doesn’t that do away with being squeamish, or saying something is vulgar, or nasty.  Some of you may even say well my partner is not handicapped so we can indulge the regular way. That is true but if you have a partner that desires more and/or to bring another level to your intimacy.  Some of us received our information about sex from our upbringing, church, peers, and a lot of it was either wrong or outdated. That is why my opinion is a married couple should be the happiest of all. Because you have that trust between you and your partner to explore and to make it all about each other’s pleasure.   The goal should be to enrich the relationship sexually and otherwise.  Like “Alice and Wonderland go down the rabbit hole” You become aware.

Warning do not attempt any of this, if you have not taken care of your partners emotional needs.  Meeting each other’s emotional needs is the purpose of marriage.  Neglect of their emotional needs is the key reason for divorce .

 I have so much to share we have to make a part three. 

On the next article we will get to the juicy part, ( no pun intended ) ok maybe a little.

 

 

 

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Have A Sexcessful And Sextacular Year

 Yes, you read it right,  this is a blog for married couples ,relationships.  I know what some of you are thinking ,she loves to talk about sex  and you’re right.  I’m legal, married and very sensual.  Yes I’m still saved and my husband is still a man of God. Let’s be real , they don’t really mention it in church, it’s like you have to go underground to talk about it. When you’re home it comes up after the bills, after the kids, after dinner, after cleaning, after sports and news.  Lights out and ok now we can touch each other late at night  like an afterthought.  Don’t take too long because we have to get back to the more important things on tomorrow.  When you do talk about it with your friends, afterwards you feel guilty like you talked about something dirty.  Not I, because it is part of my nature and I’m a very sensual person. I’m grown and married , not to mention in my prime .  

Most often during marriage at some point your sex life begins to wean. There are a myriad of reasons why, busy lifestyles,  kids , jobs, career, money woes, health,  etc, becoming a routine. So let’s prioritize it again.  MzLoveviewz says It’s Ok2sexAgain .

I believe married people should have the best time of their lives.  Especially sexually, that is our language of love to each other.  It is what God ordained for a man and a woman.

Sexcessful  ,meaning more intimacy, sex and lovemaking then last year. 

Some couples leave their zip codes to spice it up.  They go on a trip, to the Caribbean or Poconos, cruise,etc. But once they get back to their zip code back in the little box it goes. To the contrary, bring it on.

Whatever excuses you’ve been using to not engage, drop them.  Now there is no set time frame for frequency, some like it more than others.  What is your norm, just increase it and it will be conducive to your marriage. When making love you become one, that is the closest you can become to your spouse.

Be spontaneous, be intriguing, playful, flirty and daring. Tease, scream, pant , be erotic, romantic. Downright naughty.

 Do you have any inhibitions?  If you do, this is the year to do away with them.  You’re going to be sexcessful in 2012, because we ‘re going to delve.

Who is the initiator ?  Time for you to reverse the roles.

 Do you make noise? (screams) ughhhh  Silent lovemaking is for turtles, get out of your shell.

 Obviously we have more to talk about so there will be a 2nd part to this.  

Mmmm, yes I will call it positions, places and toys oh my.   It’s going to be Sextacular!

 

 

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Talking Utensils: Table For 2-Silence For Both

   I went out to dinner with hubby, we enjoyed our meal and conversed.  We looked over the room and
noticed 3 couples in the dining room that were not talking at all through their meal.  I just wanted to go over to that table and hand my card and say call me, my hubby wouldn’t let me.    When your relationship gets to this stage there are major problems.   Not saying it’s to late ,but this is the time to get help.

Our lives are extremely busy and we are inundated with so many things vying for our attention.  We must make sure when we get with our significant other, you need to be present in every sense of the word.  Take off your overcoat of the job, stress, etc and get together and bond. Power up if you will , strengthen each other because jobs etc have a way of depleting you.  You have to replenish each other, pour into each other.

I must interject my word In2MeC, because you need to get into your partner,
immerse yourself in their presence. How do you do that? Ask your self what
attracted you to this person, what you would miss if they were out of your
life.  Let them know that they matter.  Don’t have anything to say, say what you
see.  Baby I like what you wearing today. That color really lights up your
complexion. Out of all the people in this room, I’m glad I’m with you etc. Sounds corny but you know you want to hear it . Call me dramatic whatever,  what you can’t call me is single lol.  Not talking is something that subtly creeps into your relationship it just doesn’t abruptly stop.  You must be alert and aware when silent changes occur in your relationship.  Keep it active and alive to stop the monotony from setting in.

On your mark start talking to each other, about  new interesting things you like mutually and individually.

MzLoveViews was stopped this time but the next couple may not be
so lucky.   Tell me, how you keep your relationship alive and relevant to each
other.