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When Was The Last Time You Let Your Mate Slide?

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It’s Wednesday and here at Ok2LoveAgain,we like to call it #WednesdayWhen?

When Was The Last Time You Let Your Mate Slide?

Slide as in free pass, overlook, give them a break. Allow room for errors. Don’t be so critical.
Allow room for mistakes.
Don’t blow up when they bring the wrong product from the store.
Give your mate space for errors, wrong decisions, to not always say the right things. They may not make the best choices all the time. We
are fallible beings, we will screw up. Every wrong word, every misstep, does not need a lecture or a finger pointed.
Stop keeping score, every new day is a chance to be better. Therefore every day we start fresh, no score. Arguments would be fewer if we give each other a chance to be human. Try not to be so critical, irritable, a little consideration goes a long way. When you find your self doing wrong or made a mistake be quick to apologize.

Correct your actions when they are revealed. Don’t be easily offended. You are with someone that truly loves you and would not want to purposely hurt or make you unhappy.
Give your relationship a chance, extend the credit to them. Pre-approve their love account. If you can do this your relationship will have a longer love life.
If your going to make a withdrawal from that person by critiquing them or pointing out their wrong.
Make sure you have deposited words of love and encouragement and praise. Because if you withdraw with out depositing first, you will get a return you would not like. Insufficient love, at a ebb do not withdraw without risk of closing the account permanently.
Be sure when you are about to point out their misdeeds, make sure your tone is soft and with care,not loud and stern as if you are correcting a child.
Respect is paramount and you must consider each other’s feeling on a matter before you act.
Keep in mind, you are talking to someone you love and who loves you in return.
This breaks down the lines of communication between the couple. The mate on the receiving end of the reprimand, or disapproval will began to feel inadequate. They will feel like they are unable to discuss things with you because of your critical view of them. Walls will began to go up, intimacy will be affected and conflict will rise.
Repair your relationship daily. The small cracks that happens every day becomes the break up someday.
It’s better to be more understanding and let our words of disappointments and correction be few. This is conducive to many years of love and peace in your life.
Minimize the negatives and magnify the positives, that works for me. I have been married for 33 years and
believe me I know,with every Marital Anniversary came some adversity!
In your relationship make room for errors. Slide!

Single
Same applies to you,give yourself room for errors.
There will be mistakes and falls, and bad choices. That’s the cycle of life, when you know better do better.

MzloveViewz/ Coach Audrey Reed
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