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Have A Sexcessful And Sextacular Year

 Yes, you read it right,  this is a blog for married couples ,relationships.  I know what some of you are thinking ,she loves to talk about sex  and you’re right.  I’m legal, married and very sensual.  Yes I’m still saved and my husband is still a man of God. Let’s be real , they don’t really mention it in church, it’s like you have to go underground to talk about it. When you’re home it comes up after the bills, after the kids, after dinner, after cleaning, after sports and news.  Lights out and ok now we can touch each other late at night  like an afterthought.  Don’t take too long because we have to get back to the more important things on tomorrow.  When you do talk about it with your friends, afterwards you feel guilty like you talked about something dirty.  Not I, because it is part of my nature and I’m a very sensual person. I’m grown and married , not to mention in my prime .  

Most often during marriage at some point your sex life begins to wean. There are a myriad of reasons why, busy lifestyles,  kids , jobs, career, money woes, health,  etc, becoming a routine. So let’s prioritize it again.  MzLoveviewz says It’s Ok2sexAgain .

I believe married people should have the best time of their lives.  Especially sexually, that is our language of love to each other.  It is what God ordained for a man and a woman.

Sexcessful  ,meaning more intimacy, sex and lovemaking then last year. 

Some couples leave their zip codes to spice it up.  They go on a trip, to the Caribbean or Poconos, cruise,etc. But once they get back to their zip code back in the little box it goes. To the contrary, bring it on.

Whatever excuses you’ve been using to not engage, drop them.  Now there is no set time frame for frequency, some like it more than others.  What is your norm, just increase it and it will be conducive to your marriage. When making love you become one, that is the closest you can become to your spouse.

Be spontaneous, be intriguing, playful, flirty and daring. Tease, scream, pant , be erotic, romantic. Downright naughty.

 Do you have any inhibitions?  If you do, this is the year to do away with them.  You’re going to be sexcessful in 2012, because we ‘re going to delve.

Who is the initiator ?  Time for you to reverse the roles.

 Do you make noise? (screams) ughhhh  Silent lovemaking is for turtles, get out of your shell.

 Obviously we have more to talk about so there will be a 2nd part to this.  

Mmmm, yes I will call it positions, places and toys oh my.   It’s going to be Sextacular!

 

 

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Home ________ Home! (pt. 1)

Fill in the blank , because for some  when they think of home it’s not “Home Sweet Home! It’s more like Home Complaining home, Home Pressure Pot Home,
Home Tapout Home, Home Wipeout Home.  Ok you get the picture. When your mate comes home, they should come home to a clean house, a house with all of their comforts. When they walk in the door and if you are there, greet them, hug, kiss them. They have been at work all day , dealing with all kinds of issues, bosses, catty coworkers, deals went wrong or times when things went good.  The project at work was successful,  and they want to be celebrated at home.  They want praise, and that’s excellent honey.   Some people come home and they have all of those luxurious comforts, beautiful home , lavishly furnished, immaculate upkeep.  Yet when they walk in the door, they can’t relax there because of “don’t eat in the living room” ,” don’t eat that snack, I’m making dinner”  or “those snacks are for the kids”.  To many restrictions in your house, is making your house not a home.   It doesn’t matter if they used the glass without a coaster.  It doesn’t matter if they sat in the living room that looks like a showroom.  Let them relax.

Keep posted  I have a part 2, watch the temperature change in your house from cold to cozy.

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We provide marriage and relationship and personal relationship coaching for “for couples, who are committed to “doing” whatever it takes to make their relationships work better.
Contact Coach Carl/Coach Audrey @ 347-330-6471

Keep em Open!

Mmmm, Here’s a little tantilizing tidbit to make it hotter! I know what you heard, and how we get settled in doing things the same ole way. Spice it up, switch it up , Mmmmm, come a little closer I tell you how. Ssshh c’mere closer, ok this is the secret.

While lovemaking Keep Your Eyes Open! Ta daa that’s it. Hey don’t knock it, try it . Especially us ladies with our insecurities with our bodies , we insist on lights off , eyes closed. Stop! Relax he is not focused on your fat pockets or this or that. Most men are visuals so keep the view  on you , it will enhance his feelings of you. Try it , may seem awkward at first because we are so used to doing it the other way .   Baby, keep those eyes open, keep the lights on and take your time.   Mmm, look into their eyes as the passion is unleashed and the only vision they have is you.   Guarantee they will be so excited and can’t stop thinking of you . Tell your mate the new rules it will be fun and exciting and  Sextacular !!!

Subprime Marriages

     Having a high interest , yet no adjustable lifestyle that is at a fixed rate.
Marriage on the rocks, yet the rock I’m talking about is ice, looks like a solid substance,but melting before your eyes.   Because to the eye it appeared that they had it all , money, fame, looks. etc.
Kim Kardashian and Chris Humphries marriage is over after a
multimillion dollar wedding event. Unfortunately this is the world in which we live in now.
Men have become lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God. (2Tim3:4-5)  Regular folk are even paying thousands of dollars on wedding just to give others a performance.
Like the Wizard of Oz, go behind the curtain and you will see a couple arguing
over the bills and what they paid for it.  They can’t deal with a problem let
alone another person.  Their foundation was weak built on pretense and
fairy-tale’s.   Marvel not they are not ashamed as you might think , this has become  the way of the world.  This society has become a culture of ON To The Next.   Fast food , fast marriages, easy come, easy go. This is a culture that has left God, out and for that cause it is sinking sand. Not preaching but the word of God is unfolding and you can see it.  My husband and I went to a wedding that must have cost over hundred thousand dollars, every guest was given a big gift box filled with expensive wine and expensive chocolates and crystal glasses.  We talked about how that had to be the most expensive wedding we had ever been to.  I even remember thinking what would I do with that kind of money. They couple appeared so happy, picture perfect, they requested on the invitation no gifts were to be given but just make a donation to their charity in our name so we can begin to be givers like them.  Sadly that was in 2010 now in 2011 we received word they are divorcing.  It was almost inconceivable , until I thought about the times we are living in.  Just to reference a different time frame , my husband and I were married at the local City Hall in front of a Judge on Friday the 13 , 30 years ago. On our 10 year Anniversary we had a real wedding and renewed our vows.  I think today that is what should be done after a certain milestone then have the wedding ceremony.  We joined a church during our marriage and was taught how to have a relationship with God for ourselves.  We were taught about married life, and how to be content in what ever state we were in yet go higher but be content until it comes.  True teachings that are scarce today we will always be grateful to our Late Apostle Morehead and his son our Pastor Bishop John Morehead and family that instilled so much in us.  The same circumstance today that we had yester year the couples of today would fold and do fold .  In my closing I just want to say put God first and the rest it shall be added to you.   He is the glue that keeps you together even when everything and everyone is falling apart.

30 Years- To God Be The Glory!

  We were so elated to celebrate our 30th year of marriage.  If you count the years we  dated , its longer than that.  We’ve been asked by many people , what’s your secret, the  answer sounds so cliché, ” If the LORD had not been on our side— let Israel say—”Psalm 124v1 (let Carl and Audrey say). 

The Lord truly has been the glue that kept us together, not just in name but inflamed with active love.  Both of us having a personal relationship with God, coupled with our love and patience  toward each other kept us anchored.  Of course there were countless times that we wanted to throw our hands up, but we talked and prayed and realized that was the easy way out.  There’s a situation, a story, or myriad of things in every relationship, that can cause it to end. Doesn’t mean it should or does.   Don’t take our story out of context, one part does not tell the whole story.   If you were not present and privy,  at the beginning and throughout our relationship, it would be hard to understand that a crisis of infidelity could not define our relationship.   The bible state’s infidelity is a reason for divorce,  it doesn’t say it had to be.   The choice was mine’s  alone and it was an easy choice for me than and now.     How can I say that , because aside from that , I  had no other valid, conceivable issue against my husband.  He was and is a wonderful husband to me.  You know that song that Jennifer Holiday sings and that verse , my life with him uttered those words literally . He is the best thing I ever had and there was no way, (cue music) I was living without him.   The defining part was he sang it first. ( I was expecting  Beyoncé  and dem to float out on a cloud and sing “we are a family” )  

     I know he is the one God ordained for me ,  because having my own relationship with God allowed me to be compassionate for  this Man of God .  I witnessed how he was so broken spiritually because he sinned against God , and broke a vow to his wife .   Although I was devastated, God used me to somehow minister to my husband in his fallen state.   I knew that ,even if we never repaired our relationship he was still a soul and he needed someone to intercede for him at that time.  Our love was stronger, than what came against it.  That was something meant for our demise, yet it gave us new life .   It allowed us to purposely choose each other again.  Nobody but God can do what he did for us. 

     So let it be no secret , put God as the head and the foundation of your marriage  and you can be sure the storms of life will beat against your  relationship , but with God on board your anchor will hold.  

(Cue the organ player, I need an usher circle  “breaks out in a praise dance”)