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The bond you share with your mate is unlike any other bond, it goes to the core of your soul. Because you become one with them sexually. That creates an unmatched relationship with any other creature. The bible calls it to know them.
This isn’t the same kind of marriage you grew up on. Today’s marriages and relationships have to deal with attention pulling from all areas, social media, twitter, Facebook, videos, TV, movies. To keep your relationship fresh, and paramount, you do have to present your best self. Take a look in the mirror would you date you. Is there something you want to improve on, weight, body whatever to give them your best self. Because we are inundated with sex,sex, sex,everywhere which in turn is a spirit of temptation.
I stay in a sexy mind-set most of the time because I’m sensual. I have to give myself props for this because I kept it contained for one man all these years. Not that I didn’t have temptation or the opportunity but it’s a choice and I have power over that. So say what you want, It works for me. I love being a woman and now that I’m at this age it has increased to the 10th power! I love finding new ways to love my husband.
Keep an open mind ladies especially, update your knowledge and beliefs about sex. Picture if you will a person that is paralyzed or handicapped in a way that does not allow them to have sex in the “normal” way. Yet they want to still be loved and be lov.ing to their partner so they have to come up with other ways to have that intimacy. That may include performing orally, or with toys, or just touching certain parts of the body. They have to become in tune with their skin, senses, and mind-set. Now that you pictured it , doesn’t that do away with being squeamish, or saying something is vulgar, or nasty. Some of you may even say well my partner is not handicapped so we can indulge the regular way. That is true but if you have a partner that desires more and/or to bring another level to your intimacy. Some of us received our information about sex from our upbringing, church, peers, and a lot of it was either wrong or outdated. That is why my opinion is a married couple should be the happiest of all. Because you have that trust between you and your partner to explore and to make it all about each other’s pleasure. The goal should be to enrich the relationship sexually and otherwise. Like “Alice and Wonderland go down the rabbit hole” You become aware.
Warning do not attempt any of this, if you have not taken care of your partners emotional needs. Meeting each other’s emotional needs is the purpose of marriage. Neglect of their emotional needs is the key reason for divorce .
I have so much to share we have to make a part three.
On the next article we will get to the juicy part, ( no pun intended ) ok maybe a little.
Authenticate, validate, yourself. You are the fairest one of all. Your competition is/ has and should always be you. You’re competing with your younger self, your pre graduate, post graduate, pre-mature, post mature self, etc. You’re the only one you have to be in competition with. The best of you. It’s you versus the maturing you. The answer will always be you. You are the fairest one of all (of you), there is none fairer then you.
This is your year to live the life you pretend on facebook, twitter and any other social sites. This is your year to be in a real happy marriage. Not just a look but a lifestyle that matches the way you’re living. Put in the work to fix what’s wrong.
You have one life, one you, one God it’s possible to do. Put all mask away refuse to wear one. That smile can be real no silent scream background. Get a confidant you can trust, may I suggest a Coach, like me. Set short term goals and long term goals and speak with your coach /confidant to keep you accountable to perform those goals. When you stumble say it, it’s ok that is a prerequisite to becoming who you want to be. When you pause, start again. Refuse to stop. Pray, yes prayer is talking to God he is your creator. Know your fears, then face them.
When you look in the mirror, don’t be so critical, be kind, and yet fix what you don’t like. Remember, it’s about becoming your best self. Not what society said you should look like or become.
Your life is not a one size fits all, neither is it a cookie cutter mold lifestyle.
Come out of your shell, if you’re shy, be more open and talk. People will speak back and listen. You have a voice use it. Don’t let anyone define you, that’s your position. There is nobody like you. You are unique. Yet the ingredient that you are is so necessary for this world, your marriage, that friendship, that family. You are needed, wanted and loved. Priceless just because of who you are.
Forgive and be forgiven, if only from God and yourself. Sometimes what we think we need from other’s we need to give to ourselves. You are not the sum of your mistakes, failings, or any other baggage you forgot to check.
Live lightly, deal with things as they occur. Live with humor, have a buffet of laughter daily. Be serious per situation, because in reality most of what you see and perceive is a farce. And to think you’re judging yourself by these things and people. When you live by other peoples standards it has a way of making your life grey, dismal if you will. Live brightly, in color. Your life has a color to it, people can see. It’s called your personality.
Get around empowering people, like minded people that support your dreams and aspirations.
If you’re lame, don’t be ashamed, just come out of your shell. Get beyond your comfort zone. Dare yourself, stretch yourself. Act it until it becomes the fit you want.
Live authentically, be genuine, be you. Do not give anyone power of attorney in your life while you’re still capable to control it.
Ask yourself in 2012, as the New Year is ushering in the new and improved version of you.
Let your friends know I’m not ‘trying to be better then you, I’m becoming better for you.
You have one life, one you, one God it’s possible to do.
Mirror, Mirror, on the wall. who is the fairest one of all? In this view it’s only you.
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