Tag Archive | Sexuality

Have A Sexcessful And Sextacular New Year! pt 3

 Welcome to the Pleasuredom!

Variety is the key, try not to get into a routine. This can be hard with our busy lives but we have to  be vigilant so we can be spontaneous.

Now every time you indulge it doesn’t have to be romantic . Men sometime want to forego the romance and go for the quickie, the freaky, the wild yet all the time keep the respect and loving bond.

This is the Darling Menu , everything you can get from your darling.

Take advantage of his morning salute.

Kiss from head to toe , get lost along the way.

When no one else is home declare your house a nudist camp and do everything in the nude together.

Have dessert on them like a plate.

Blindfold and tie your mate up.

Video tape your sexcapades than watch and enjoy then erase.

Go on a sexual fast, no sex only touch and arousal touch for 10-20-30 days. Then come back together for a renewed heightened experience.   If you do decide to do this you must pick up in the other areas, massage, spa time at home or away, touching to arousal but not indulging. Talking sexy, sexting, little gifts, immersing yourself in loving each other,

Don’t just rekindle, do some new things.

When was the last time you took a shower together?

How about a bubble bath, if you can’t fit in your tub google a hotel that has a Jacuzzi.

Where there is a desire, than you have fuel for the fire.

Midnight picnic in your home.

Try different positions, see how limber you are.

Do it now while you can still do the positions.

Tell your mate exactly what you want, need, if they don’t know tell them verbatim. Show and tell them.

What are your fantasies, your imagination for your intimacy?

Role play, dress up, play truth or dare in the bedroom.

Tie up and blind fold.

Perform a strip tease, lap dance for your mate

Have fun be childlike with adult freedom.

It’s ok that is your partner, you’re adults, enjoy each other.

Change your roles if you’re a professional in your career, when you come home totally relax, switch gears.

Become playful, flirty, and romantic. If you’re use to being the initiator, relax it’s time for your mate to take charge.

I have much more recipes on the menu but I will save for other sextacular articles.

My basis for this article is to encourage you to enjoy one another. Let nothing or no one hinder you from fulfilling your partners desires, and loving them to best of your ability.

It has nothing to do with either you do it or someone else will, that may be true. We are not animals that act on instinct. That is a choice. Put all that energy into your relationship and you will have a  Sexcessful and Sextacular  year and life. This is all conducive to a happier relationship and a happier you. Which makes it Sexcellent

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Have A Sexcessful and Sextacular Year Pt 2

To have a Sexcessful and Sextacular New Year, with your mate you must put in the time and effort.

The bond you share with your mate is unlike any other bond, it goes to the core of your soul. Because you become one with them sexually.  That creates an unmatched relationship with any other creature.  The bible calls it to know them.

This isn’t the same kind of marriage you grew up on.  Today’s marriages and relationships have to deal with attention pulling from all areas, social media, twitter, Facebook, videos, TV, movies.  To keep your relationship fresh, and paramount, you do have to present your best self. Take a look in the mirror would you date you. Is there something you want to improve on, weight, body whatever to give them your best self.   Because we are inundated with sex,sex, sex,everywhere which in turn is a spirit of temptation.  

I stay in a sexy mind-set most of the time because I’m sensual.  I have to give myself props for this because I kept it contained for one man all these years.  Not that I didn’t have temptation or the opportunity but it’s a choice and I have power over that.  So say what you want, It works for me.  I love being a woman and now that I’m at this age it has increased to the 10th power!  I love finding new  ways to love my husband.

Keep an open mind ladies especially, update your knowledge and beliefs about sex.  Picture if you will a person that is paralyzed or handicapped in a way that does not allow them to have sex in the “normal” way. Yet they want to still be loved and be lov.ing to their partner so they have to come up with other ways to have that intimacy.   That may include performing orally, or with toys, or just touching certain parts of the body. They have to become in tune with their skin, senses, and mind-set.  Now that you pictured it , doesn’t that do away with being squeamish, or saying something is vulgar, or nasty.  Some of you may even say well my partner is not handicapped so we can indulge the regular way. That is true but if you have a partner that desires more and/or to bring another level to your intimacy.  Some of us received our information about sex from our upbringing, church, peers, and a lot of it was either wrong or outdated. That is why my opinion is a married couple should be the happiest of all. Because you have that trust between you and your partner to explore and to make it all about each other’s pleasure.   The goal should be to enrich the relationship sexually and otherwise.  Like “Alice and Wonderland go down the rabbit hole” You become aware.

Warning do not attempt any of this, if you have not taken care of your partners emotional needs.  Meeting each other’s emotional needs is the purpose of marriage.  Neglect of their emotional needs is the key reason for divorce .

 I have so much to share we have to make a part three. 

On the next article we will get to the juicy part, ( no pun intended ) ok maybe a little.

 

 

 

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Keep em Open!

Mmmm, Here’s a little tantilizing tidbit to make it hotter! I know what you heard, and how we get settled in doing things the same ole way. Spice it up, switch it up , Mmmmm, come a little closer I tell you how. Ssshh c’mere closer, ok this is the secret.

While lovemaking Keep Your Eyes Open! Ta daa that’s it. Hey don’t knock it, try it . Especially us ladies with our insecurities with our bodies , we insist on lights off , eyes closed. Stop! Relax he is not focused on your fat pockets or this or that. Most men are visuals so keep the view  on you , it will enhance his feelings of you. Try it , may seem awkward at first because we are so used to doing it the other way .   Baby, keep those eyes open, keep the lights on and take your time.   Mmm, look into their eyes as the passion is unleashed and the only vision they have is you.   Guarantee they will be so excited and can’t stop thinking of you . Tell your mate the new rules it will be fun and exciting and  Sextacular !!!

Love’s Signature Is The Kiss

  Kissing is like the licking of the envelope for love, it seals it. Each person kiss is different, is so sensual and extremely intimate. Do you kiss while making love? You may think that is a silly question,  but it’s not. Couples, remember when you were dating, you talked a lot  then came the kiss.  It was exciting, sexy, fun, flirty. Now it seems like an old acquaintance, it seems that the longer you’re in a relationship, that’s the first thing to go. It happens subtly, the novelty wears off the busier we are and the monotony sets in. Life begins to get so hurried that in the relationship things that were first begins to take a back seat . We start to bump lips, I call it or peck and that is not a signature( lol) that is like writing your initials.  Kissing is extremely intimate, just as intimate if not more than sex. Case in point ex: Prostitutes refuse to kiss their John’s because of the emotional intimacy of the act.  So couples be very vigilant , reflect back on how you two romanced each other, and go back to those basic steps.  Take the time to french kiss each other, it takes a few seconds but it will add time to your relationship keeping it fresh and active. Try to be different each time , change it up, you know bite the lip, flick the tongue , and it doesn’t have to be on the mouth all the time.  Kiss on the neck, lower, higher, just keep kissing, the passion will stay active.  If you realize you stopped and you got into a routine of bump kissing, shock them the next time you give them a kiss make it long and passionate. You don’t want to have them craving for something that is already in the house. The worst thing is to find your self with a roommate who you occasionally have sex with. I like to say keep the (y) in sexy otherwise it’s just sex.   Love’s signature is the kiss , so start signing !