We were so elated to celebrate our 30th year of marriage. If you count the years we dated , its longer than that. We’ve been asked by many people , what’s your secret, the answer sounds so cliché, ” If the LORD had not been on our side— let Israel say—”Psalm 124v1 (let Carl and Audrey say).
The Lord truly has been the glue that kept us together, not just in name but inflamed with active love. Both of us having a personal relationship with God, coupled with our love and patience toward each other kept us anchored. Of course there were countless times that we wanted to throw our hands up, but we talked and prayed and realized that was the easy way out. There’s a situation, a story, or myriad of things in every relationship, that can cause it to end. Doesn’t mean it should or does. Don’t take our story out of context, one part does not tell the whole story. If you were not present and privy, at the beginning and throughout our relationship, it would be hard to understand that a crisis of infidelity could not define our relationship. The bible state’s infidelity is a reason for divorce, it doesn’t say it had to be. The choice was mine’s alone and it was an easy choice for me than and now. How can I say that , because aside from that , I had no other valid, conceivable issue against my husband. He was and is a wonderful husband to me. You know that song that Jennifer Holiday sings and that verse , my life with him uttered those words literally . He is the best thing I ever had and there was no way, (cue music) I was living without him. The defining part was he sang it first. ( I was expecting Beyoncé and dem to float out on a cloud and sing “we are a family” )
I know he is the one God ordained for me , because having my own relationship with God allowed me to be compassionate for this Man of God . I witnessed how he was so broken spiritually because he sinned against God , and broke a vow to his wife . Although I was devastated, God used me to somehow minister to my husband in his fallen state. I knew that ,even if we never repaired our relationship he was still a soul and he needed someone to intercede for him at that time. Our love was stronger, than what came against it. That was something meant for our demise, yet it gave us new life . It allowed us to purposely choose each other again. Nobody but God can do what he did for us.
So let it be no secret , put God as the head and the foundation of your marriage and you can be sure the storms of life will beat against your relationship , but with God on board your anchor will hold.
(Cue the organ player, I need an usher circle “breaks out in a praise dance”)